Like most masculine heterosexual men, your husband or
boyfriend is likely to strenuously object to and
actively resist taking the strap-on at first. Just the
idea of having something forced up his ass like that
will feel foreign and unnatural to him.

Treating his tight little asshole like it’s just a hole
to be fucked will be abhorrent to him. He will feel
violated and abused. He’ll try to talk you out of it.
He’ll plead with you to stop because it hurts, because
it’s uncomfortable, and claim that he’s afraid it’s
going to cause damage to his insides. Ignore it.

He might do childish and silly things, like try to hide
the dildo from you. Or not come home until late at
night, claiming he had to work, and then say he’s not
feeling well and beg you Can’t we do this tomorrow
instead? or something similar.

He might whine and whimper and complain that being
fucked in the ass like that makes him feel like a fag.
He might engage in all sorts of other efforts to divert
your attention away from his asshole and from what needs
to be done. Ignore it, and discipline him if necessary.
Don’t hesitate. Your will must be greater than his.

When you get this kind of resistance, that’s when you
need to keep your focus, stay determined, and be
persistent. And quite honestly, fuck him a little harder
and more often. Switch to a thicker dildo to push
reinforce your dominance further. Let him know through
your words and actions that his active compliance will
result in a more pleasurable or at least less painful
experience for him.

In a FemDom Relationship, it’s important during the
first few months of his training that he get the strap-
on regularly and consistently. As I’ve read and learned
from firsthand experience, that training must be
carefully paced, consistent, and employ an effective
punishment/reward system that takes into account a
person’s individual characteristics. How often will
depend upon your situation, but as a general matter, he
should be getting it at least several times a week.

Mix it up so he doesn’t always know when it’s going to
happen. At night before he falls asleep. In the morning
before he goes to work. After work when he gets home. In
the middle of the night when you just get in the mood.
Wake him in the middle of the night by working the head
of your strap-on into your fuckhole. This will help
reinforce your authority. Ignore his whining about it.
The rewards will come later.

Because after a while you’ll see’ something magical
happens. Gradually, over time, his resistance breaks
down. Deep down inside, like a naughty little boy, he’s
ashamed of his constant masturbation, and wants to
please his female authority figure. He needs discipline.
He wants the most important woman in his life, that
woman that he loves, to be happy with him, and be proud
of him. He doesn’t want to disappoint you. He craves
your approval. Be sure to praise him thoroughly, when he
happily submits to your strap-on.

This is especially the case if his little penis has been
locked up or his orgasms have otherwise been severely
restricted. Even more so if you’ve introduced corporal
discipline into your relationship. That’s why these two
elements enforced chastity and corporal discipline
coupled with regular use of the strap-on, are so
important during this early stage. All three of them
complement each other, and work together.

You will notice that the dynamics of your relationship
will change. Your authority will increase in direct
proportion to how often you exercise it. You are setting
the tone for the entire relationship in the first few
months. Be sure to set the tone how you want it.

He will begin to understand that he no longer controls
everything. Not his penis. Not his fuckhole. Not his
orgasm. He can’t even get an erection without your
permission. He will realize that he can no longer just
do whatever he wants, whenever he wants, without any
consideration for his wife or girlfriend and her
feelings and needs and desires. This is why it’s so
important to get control of his masturbation habit.
Unsupervised or unrestricted male masturbation should
never ever be permitted in a FemDom Relationship. The
male must never be allowed to cum without permission.

He will gradually begin to respect your authority. He
will gradually get used to having something up his ass,
and get used to the size and thickness of the dildo.
That is until you get a larger size to continue the
training of your fuckhole. Requiring him to wear a good-
size butt plug in between fuckings will help with this.
Make him wear one anytime you allow him to orgasm. Make
him wear one in public. Make him wear one to sleep every
night. Make him wear one, whenever he is in your
presence.

You should also periodically change up the dildos and
plus, using different shapes and sizes, so that his body
learns to just accept what it gets. Increase the size of
the plug and dildos over time to keep the experience
intense and challenging for him.

No matter how big his cock is, train him to easily
accept something at least a little bigger than his own
cock. It reminds him who is in charge. If his cock is
very small, train him to accept a cock a little larger
than you enjoy. I cannot stress enough how important
butt plug training is if you are going to REALLY enjoy
using the strap on.

It’s important to remember that you need to break him in
slowly as you train his ass to take the strap-on. You
also need to fuck him frequently at least 2-3 times a
week because between fuckings, his little bitch hole
will naturally tighten back up on you. Just go slow at
first, use lots of lube, and start out small and thin
before you work your way up to big and thick. Having him
wear a butt plug for an hour or longer before you strap
him helps.

It also needs to be consistent so that you can get him
in the right frame of mind. He needs to expect it and
know it’s going to happen whether he likes it or not.

You want to stretch out his fuckhole to the point where
after you lube him up, and press the dildo up against
it, there is just that initial resistance to
penetration, so that you have to kind of maintain the
pressure, and then when you thrust forward it just kind
of easily slides in and goes in most of the way in so
that after a few minutes you can start fucking him with
it without resistance or discomfort or pain.

Start out with a small, thin one, unless he’s
experienced. After a few weeks move up to a medium size
one.

For the next few weeks alternate between both the small
and the medium size one.

When he gets to the point where he can easily take the
medium size one, it’s time to introduce him to the big
one. remember that each time you transition up to a
bigger, thicker dildo, it will be like his fuckhole is
virgin all over again. Be patient, but determined. He
will feel some discomfort. That’s normal until his bitch
hole opens up and adjusts to the new size.

After that, you just alternate between the small and the
medium and the big one, depending on your mood and the
kind of experience you want him to have.

The small one is for making love and emotional bonding.
It’s the one you use when you get the urge to fuck him
in the middle of the night, roll him over while he’s
still half asleep, and just take his sweet ass with it.
That kind of spontaneous action is important to do every
once in a while because it reinforces in his mind that
you own his ass and can take it and fuck it anytime you
want.

The medium size one is for just general fucking and the
one you should use most often. Once you’ve trained his
ass, it should go in quite easily, like a hot knife into
butter. You should be able to slide it into his fuckhole
in a couple seconds with no discomfort. You should be
able to fuck him good and hard with it.

You should also get a second medium size dildo that is
specially designed and shaped for milking his prostate
and draining his balls of semen without letting him cum.
These dildos will have a special bulb or knob at the end
with a slight curve to it.

The big one is for those occasions when you really want
him to really feel your authority. When you want him to
know that he’s getting fucked. When you want him to feel
it afterwards. This should be rare and special, perhaps
2-3 times a month. This is the dildo you should make him
suck first. It should be a good tight fit, and should be
uncomfortable for him at first, until you open up his
ass with it. It should be the one he slightly fears.

Over time the big one will become the medium one. This
is especially true, if you train his ass with butt
plugs. You can humiliate and tease him by talking about
how he will soon be able to take much larger strap-ons
with no trouble in the near future. The regular and
consistent physical training will prepare his fuckhole
for your use.

But it’s more than just getting used to things
physically. In many ways, the mental and psychological
changes in him are even more profound and life-changing.
It’s during this time that you should require him to
start wearing butt plugs, ball stretchers, cock
harnesses, cock rings, chastity devices, etc. because it
reinforces your authority and his new place in the
relationship.

If it works size-wise, make him wear some or all of
these underneath his business suit to work. And require
him to continue to use the men’s urinal so he’ll be
fearful that someone will see his bound and tortured
cock and balls. Make him wear a butt plug and ball
stretcher to sleep every night. Tell him your toys
always have to be ready for you. Explain to him that if
he’s getting fucked like a submissive little bitch, he
needs to feel submissive even when he’s not getting
fucked by your thick strap-on.

Make him insert the butt plug into your fuckhole in
front of you. Make him randomly drop his pants to show
you he is complying with your orders. Make him show you
the plug in his ass before he leaves the house to run
errands. Order him to help you put on the strap-on
harness.

His body will learn to adjust to his new circumstance.
Getting the strap-on will go from being painful, to just
being uncomfortable, to just feeling a little weird, to
tolerating it, to enjoying it, to craving it as his only
sexual release, if you so choose. Spending some time
learning how to properly stimulate his prostate as you
fuck him will help. This is also a good time, if his
penis is locked up, to milk his prostate and drain his
balls of semen on a regular basis. It significantly
helps reinforce everything that you are trying to
accomplish in his training.

If you have the patience and determination to maintain
the discipline, you will see how effective it is. His
erogenous zone will slowly start to shift from the head
of his penis to the opening to his asshole and his
prostate gland. After a while, he’ll start putting his
ass up for you frequently and spontaneously, like a
bitch in heat, because he needs and wants that
stimulation. He’ll show much more eagerness in helping
you don the strap-on harness.

Frequent use of the strap-on, coupled with extended
tease and denial can have the effect of essentially re-
wiring the pleasure centers in his brain. By stimulating
his prostate via strap-on fucking, while denying him any
direct stimulation of his penis, he will, over time,
begin to associate his own sexual pleasure with anal
penetration. You will notice that he’ll start to leak
semen, while his penis is soft, in drips and dribbles,
while you fuck him. He’s not having an orgasm; his
prostate is being milked.

It is both intensely frustrating and curiously
pleasurable for him at the same time. Frustrating
because it feels to him like he’s always on the verge or
edge of cumming, but it never happens. Pleasurable
because of the excitable nerve endings on his prostate.
Then what you want to do, about once every twenty days,
is release him from chastity, proceed to fuck him the
strap-on, grab hold of the base of penis (it will be
nice and hard for you), but do not touch the sensitive
head, and give him a good hard fucking.

When you’re ready, just barely touch the head of his
penis with your fingers, like you’re strumming a guitar,
and he will blast off like a rocket. You want him to cum
like that while you’re still all up in his ass. After
his penis goes soft (and if it’s taking too long, use
ice), immediately lock him back up. He needs to feel
that immediate authority from you.

Verbal humiliation during this time can be very
effective in terms of breaking him in. The first time
you teasingly refer to his ass as a “fuckhole” or a
“slutty ass” will shock and startle and embarrass him.
Ignore it. The first time you tell him that his penis is
worthless, that he takes your strap-on like a wanton
slut, this is the only way he can orgasm in the next six
months and that you need him to take much thicker dildos
harder and for much longer, will really get his
attention. Tell him you plan to train him to easily take
toys longer and thicker than his own cock.

Explaining to him that you’ve decided to share some of
the more intimate details of your sex life with him with
two or three of your closest girlfriends such as that he
has a small penis.

That you lock up his penis in chastity, that you
restrict his orgasms, that he’s your cunt-licker, that
you like to fuck him with a strap-on, that you make him
wear butt plugs almost 24/7, that he has to cum only
from your strap-on fuckings.

Make him clean up anything that drips or shoots from his
cock will be extremely embarrassing for him, but it will
also reinforce to him how serious you are about changing
the dynamics of your relationship. Hinting to him that
you may allow one of your girlfriends to watch his
strap-on fuckings will only embarrass him further.

After three or four months of this, as long as you are
clear and consistent with him, he will stop resisting
and stop fighting it. You’ll notice it in the way he
puts his ass up for you, in the way he holds and cuddles
and loves you afterwards, and in the way he eagerly
services your cunt to thank you for using his fuckhole.

Needless to say, he should not be permitted to have
intercourse with you during this time. I recommend that
he be denied pussy for at least the first six months.
Sex, for him, should be strictly limited to him orally
servicing you when you decide to let him and fucking him
with your strap-on. His penis should not be involved,
except, perhaps, for an occasional teasing handjob or
footjob without orgasm.

He should also be denied blowjobs during this time. He
should be made to understand that until he has been
trained, has demonstrated the proper level of respect
for you and your authority, and has come to accept his
new place in the relationship, his penis is simply not
worthy of your pussy treasure, or your succulent mouth,
or the chance to shoot it’s load.

If, during this time, you withhold your pussy from him
entirely, and not permit him to taste it, touch it, or
even see it or have access to it, it will drive him
absolutely crazy with jealousy, lust, anxiety, and
desire. He will do absolutely anything for you, and be
happy to do it. He will crawl across the room on broken
glass just to smell your pussy.

He will eagerly lick you out after he came inside you.
Take advantage of this. Explain to him that until he
demonstrates the proper levels of respect, submission
and appreciation for you, he can only hope to worship
your asshole, while you fill his fuckhole with thicker
and thicker strap-ons.

If you wish to put him further in his place, train him
exactly how you want him to orally service your ass hole
until you have determined he is sufficiently compliant
and submissive to be rewarded with your pussy.

He will come to accept all of this because he loves you
and is motivated to please you. And because you control
his penis. You control his ability to even get an
erection. You control his orgasms. You control him.

After a while, getting the strap-on just becomes a
normal part of his experience. And you’ll see, if you go
more than a couple of days with using his fuckhole, your
Ass Licker will actually start to miss it. He will soon
begin to beg for you to fuck his ass with your thick
strap-on. Then he’ll be not only your Ass Licker, but
your Butt Slut as well.

You decide just how thick of a plug he must wear to bed.
How large of a strap-on you fuck him with. You decide
when his fuckhole is stretched enough.

Once a couple goes down this road, there is no going
back. Getting bent over and fucked in the ass with a
strap-on is a transformative event in a man’s life, and
for the relationship. Nothing afterwards will be the
same as it was before. Take advantage of it. Shape
things to your desires. Now you can decide how far you
want to push his training.

He is powerless to resist at this point.